I grew up in a family where, as children, my siblings and I would NEVER consider approaching our parents to talk about certain topics. We never discussed money, and I couldn’t fathom having a conversation about sex with my parents. These issues were simply taboo.

However, researchers continue to reveal the importance of open communication between children and their parents, that is, IF parents want to impart their values on their children and attempt to influence the decisions they make as they mature. Positive communication and active listening are keys to keeping the channels open between parents and their children.

According to experts with the non-profit organization Advocates for Youth, research has shown “that youth with the least accurate information about sexuality and sexual risk behaviors may experiment more and at earlier ages compared to youth who have more information.” Teens also report that they want to discuss sex, relationships and sexual health with their parents. However, many parents aren’t very “askable.”

It’s common for adults feel that they may not have the right words or answers or they may be concerned that their children don’t think they’re “with it.” They might also fear giving too much or too little information and worry about when it’s appropriate to share that information.

However, being an askable parent will open the doors for closer relationships with your children and to family connections. It may take some adjusting and a little practice, but learning how to talk WITH your children, with confidence, can also help to protect them in the long haul.

Listening, learning and living together, it’s the science of life. “Family Album” is a co-production of University of Florida IFAS Extension, the Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences and of WUFT-FM. If you’d like to learn more, please visit our website at familyalbumradio.org.

Podcast: Are you an “askable” parent?
Written by Donna Z. Davis
Reviewed by Suzanna Smith

References:

Huberman, B. & Alford, S. (2005), “Are you an askable parent?” Advocates for Youth. Retrieved on November 19, 2006.