Written by: Suzanna Smith, Ph.D. and reviewed by Donna Davis, M.S.
Almost 13 of the 18 million children younger than five years of age in the U.S. (U.S. Census, 2002) are in some form of regular childcare. This means that millions of parents are finding ways to help their children adjust to being away from mom or dad and get used to a new routine and situation. Child development experts recommend a number of strategies, particularly in the early weeks of care.
Parents can help their child prepare for care by talking about what the child will do during the time in care, and when they will see the child next. An older toddler may like to pretend she or he is the parent taking you to child care. With younger children, “play disappearing/reappearing games such as peek-a-boo and hide-and-seek” (Zero to Three). These games show your child that while “things and people may go away, they come back. Emphasize the message that ‘Mommy [or Daddy] may go away, but [they] always [come] back.’” Children’s books about children in care can also be helpful.
The goodbye time is very important. When it's time to leave, “don't linger or show worry” (Zero to Three). Usually, “when parents say a brief, upbeat good-bye, their children stop crying and adjust more quickly” (Zero to Three). Have a special routine to help your child feel secure and the transition easier. This might be exchanging a big hug and kiss and saying, “’See you later alligator’” (Zero to Three)
To keep things going smoothly in care, stay involved with the childcare provider (Child Care Aware, 2001-2006). Meet regularly and ask questions to make sure that things are going well. The more confident you are, the more relaxed your child is likely to be.
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References
American Academy of Pediatrics. Separation anxiety. Retrieved June 6, 2006.
Child Care Aware a (2001-2006). 5 steps to choosing quality child care. Retrieved June 6, 2006.
Child Care Aware b (2001-2006). A parent’s guide to choosing safe and healthy child care. Retrieved June 6, 2006
Overturf Johnson, Julia. Who’s Minding the Kids? Child Care Arrangements: Winter 2002,Current Population Reports, P70-101. U.S. Census Bureau, Washington, DC, 2005.
Zero to Three (n.d.). I'm going back to work and sending my 12-month-old to day care. I'm worried that she'll have trouble adjusting. How can I get her ready? Retrieved June 6, 2006l
Zero to Three (n.d.) Matching your infant's or toddler's style to the right child care setting. Retrieved June 6, 2006
